Here Today... Gone To Hell!

You may remember a couple other threads about my sisters' boyfriend and her drama and all of that. Well, this is the 3rd and hopefully last thread I'll create on this subject. Basically,  my sister was threatned with a knife but he didn't stab her, he just sort-of snapped out of it, one druken night. Now, they are back together even after a restraning order and a charge of aggravated assault.

To add to this story, my mom and my 2 younger sisters have moved in with this couple.

And, finally, my sisters boyfriends' brother comitted suicide about a month ago.

Anyways, I was wondering what someone like me could do or what I should do in a siutation like this. I don't live in the same house as her anymore but I just want some kind of idea cause I don't even want to be around my family anymore and I'm tired of being insecure about all of this shit.

Skip town.  You have it tough man.  That sucks.  It is sad to see women that go back to abusive relationships.  How your Mom moved in with them is beyond me.  If I was in this situation I would call child protective services on my mother.  I would also talk to the DA or police department about the domestic abuse going on in the home.  This way you can at least try and protect your little sister.  Im sure they will deny everything. 

Fight for your sisters or skip town and try and start anew somewhere else.  That way at least you dont have to at least watch them ruin each others lives with your own eyes.  Sounds like your mother is a lost cause.  No offense.  What happens when you confront her about it?

Sorry about the suicide.  I bet this will do nothing but add to the problem though.  Sounds like a very unstable situation. 

Why would your mother move in to a situation like that especially with two kids?

The way I see it you have to options .

1. Stay as far away from the situation as you can. Thought doing that will have wondering if anything bad has happened all the time.

2. Try and talk some sense into your sister and mother ,and get them to move out. Preferable far away from this guy.

I haven't even talked to my mom yet, she didn't move in until a couple days ago.

One part of me wants to believe he'll act better with my mom there but another part of me says that it really doesn't matter.

But, I lived with this couple for 8 months and now my mom will learn how it is living with a couple like that.

Thank you for the advice.

My sister has only been back with him for a little over a week and my mom had been planning this for about a month so she didn't know that she would be moving in with my sister and her boyfriend.

I'm assuming she's still pregnant with their kid?

Yes, my sister Shelley is still pregnant with his kid. She's due in November.

she needs to get away and stay away from this man...they never change, they may act all nice and reformed but once an abuser, always an abuser....nothing can chnage until she decides to leave for good....I wish you the best of luck dude.

Yeah, thanks.

His behavoir has been escalating (going from bad to worse) for a little while now and it's not too hard to predict what will (or what could) happen next.

grab your bags and hit the half-past ten to canada :P

how old are these 2 younger ones?   If I were you, I would leave that place too, but it would hang in my conscience to leave my sisters with that crazy, violent guy.

Do you have relatives elsewhere?  Maybe you could crash at their place while you figure something out.  Good luck.

Well, I actually don't live there anymore and haven't for about 7 months now. I just live close by. So I'm safe, I think.

The 2 younger ones are 12 and 14.

I don't know if you can do anything, given your age.  But I feel very sorry for your younger sisters.  I hope your mother gets them out of there soon.

i feel sorry for your family man. why do girls go for strong abusive guys? why dont the girls go for me i mean im allright looking. i need to fatten up a bit and build my muscles up though. but the good thing about me is i wouldnt ever hurt a girl and im a very nice guy. the only reason i dont get girls is cause im depressed, shy and i have no self esteem or confidence. but why does that matter so much?

hey markus what are the other topics u have made that are like this one called? i havent read them yet

Dude u didnt listen to me last time but im telling u

something very bad is gonna happen to someone in your family by Christmas.

My dad was very psychotic and crazy, he came within 4 inches of killing my mother, i know what im talkin about.

the suicide of his brother will only make him worse, this guy obviously has no clue as to how to deal with his problems.

he did crazy shit already, u add his brothers suicide on top of that and its very explosive now.

Im a big dude, i dont know how tough or big u are, but If it were my sister that motherfucker wouldve been in Intensive Care a long time ago.

Just prepare yourself for tragedy dude. cause its coming

I hope im wrong but i cant see a happy ending to this situation.

D said it!

Don't bail on them, they will need you soon, tal to your sis and mum, tell them how you feel, you're worried about them, there's nothing wrong with that, i just hope they will listen.

I gotta say I agree with D.

Man if you can't beat him up I alone go gather a crowd.

At least that what I'd do, and if I had zero chance of winning one on one I would make that call.

If it goes to the cops afterwards, well
the guy prolly has a register so just say it was self defence. Who do you think they're going to believe.

It's better to react that to sit and wait.

And if something would happen while you've been covering, could you look in the mirror after that?

The Other Topics are called Get Out Of My House! and Get Out Of Her House!

The first one was started at the beginning of Last October.
The second one was created around the beginning of March.

Thanks for the advice. I really don't remember what you said about the last thing but if I ignored you, then I really didn't mean to.

I will try to do what I can regarding this siutation.

u didnt ignore but u were making light of it like we were stupid or dumb or something.

Like yeah people were sayin dumb shit like she would be dead etc.

Im telling u man.

U can run away and regret it if/when something happens

or u can do something about it and make a better life for your family.

just prepare yourself for when that moment happens

will u sit on your ass and let something bad happen? or will u be a hero and save your family?

Take D`s advice. Do what you can, but get out of that situation and hope your family listens to reason. There is only so much you can do, do what you can for your family but put yourself and your well being above all else. You are smart enough to see the situation for what it is, unfortunately your family does not.

Thank you and thank you to D and all of the others for all their advice.