How Do You Ask Out A Co-Worker?

[GunnerOne 84]

So I just got a new job as a waiter, and this girl started about the same time as me. I'm interested and want to ask her out, preferably when we see each other tonight. I know she's single and looking.

If she says no, I won't be too bent out of shape over it, but I would like to avoid being "that guy" at work. The place is low key and I know I wouldn't get in trouble, I just don't want to be the subject of gossip.

Thoughts?

[Annie]

So I just got a new job as a waiter, and this girl started about the same time as me. I'm interested and want to ask her out, preferably when we see each other tonight. I know she's single and looking.

If she says no, I won't be too bent out of shape over it, but I would like to avoid being "that guy" at work. The place is low key and I know I wouldn't get in trouble, I just don't want to be the subject of gossip.

Thoughts?

Are you hot? Dating coworkers is risky, but people will take risks if the person is good looking enough. Shallow but true, since you really haven't had time to get to know each other yet.

[GunnerOne 84]

I would say I'm a decent looking guy, but you can judge for yourself on my facebook page:

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?success=1&id=5735913#/profile.php?id=5735913&ref=profile

[Drew]

Are you hot?

Come on now, we know everything isn't based on looks. 

[Annie]

I can't access facebook from my current computer. I am sure that you are cute. When new people start at a job, people do check out how hot they are if they are interested in dating a coworker. More meaningful relationships take time. If she is interested she will drop subtle hints. I am sure that you are attracted soley to her sparkling personality. When new doctors start where I work, people immediateley scope. A big lunchtime conversation will evolve on the hot new doctor (if any) with the single people.

[Jessica]

You will be subject of gossip wether you date her or not.

Just face it

[Bandita]

Dating a co-worker is never a good idea if it is a job you actually give a hoot about.  If it's some part time gig and you can get another easily, then just ask.

[GunnerOne 84]

It's a part time job for both of us, while we're in college.

[Bandita]

It's a part time job for both of us, while we're in college.

Right, but if things don't work out can you get another one in this economy?

I have dated various coworkers throughout my life and I can tell you it never worked out well in the end.

BTW, you're a cute kid---I can't see you having any issues with the ladies.

[GunnerOne 84]

Well thank you.

I may just pass this up. I don't want to risk offending her and losing my job, or having something go sour and having to dee each other at work.

Thanks for the advice.

[GypsySoul]

So I just got a new job as a waiter, and this girl started about the same time as me. I'm interested and want to ask her out, preferably when we see each other tonight. I know she's single and looking.

If she says no, I won't be too bent out of shape over it, but I would like to avoid being "that guy" at work. The place is low key and I know I wouldn't get in trouble, I just don't want to be the subject of gossip.

Thoughts?

say it to her basically like you said it to us:  Would you like to go out for drinks(/dinner/whatever) later?  If you're not interested, I'll understand.  I certainly don't want to make our working together uncomfortable for either one of us.

[ppbebe]

serial threads: the co workers no 3??

Good luck GunnerOne 84

[Chief]

i say go for it.. its a part time job so it's not a huge deal!  who knows what could happen!

[LeftToDecay]

It's nice you stopped with the whole touching thing.
Please stop saying " hi" to her though, she really doesn't appreciate it.

[D]

Dude, Id say 75 percent of people meet at work

go for it

all she can say is no and if she does, don't be a dick about it. Be friendly, take it well and maybe you will gain a friend out of it.

[Axl4Prez2004]

Oh no!  GunnerOne84, you're not Annie's boss are you?  She's just not that into you. 

seriously, just go for it.  what the heck, ya only live once. 

[Annie]

I would say I'm a decent looking guy, but you can judge for yourself on my facebook page:

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?success=1&id=5735913#/profile.php?id=5735913&ref=profile

You are very cute. If the girl is flirting with you, then go for it! I am sure that people are saying that you are hot!

[Annie]

It's nice you stopped with the whole touching thing.
Please stop saying " hi" to her though, she really doesn't appreciate it.

This is part of what started my other thread. I had this school girl crush on this heart surgeon who was much older than me who was very arrogant, hot and married. I told him that he was a total babe and that i wanted to marry someone like him.He once told me that I was pretty and I was happy for a year. He was always very nice to me, and he made me feel special. My one feminist friend hated him and she said he was only nice to me because of my hero worship of him. I said that really arrogant men like him would not be nice if they found me repulsive, like I find the creep repulsive. She had to agree with that one. If this surgeon had been available, I totally would have dated him. We were talking about a GNR concert once, and I said " I love Axl even more than you!'. He laughed because he had no idea who Axl was.

[western_chaos]

When I was younger, and I asked co-workers out, I got rejected but that's cause I did not know how to ask them out properly.

Like I would write them a poem, or letter, but woulden't go to them directly.

[*Timothy*]

Go up to them and say ." I like you. Lets do this!"