So many things said in this thread piss me off in all kinds of ways...only because I am one whom has known the struggle of trying to raise two kids alone when my exhusband decided he no longer wanted to be married or tied down..this when the kids were 3 and 1
Needless to say, when I got married, I married him because I loved him, not because he had his own growing business and he and his family came from wealth. Even though it hurt, I signed a prenup stating I wouldn't touch the business..etc..a bunch of other crap and you know what? I got nothing.Not that I wanted anything to begin with. All I asked for is fair child support to help raise the two boys we had, and half of any monies we grew together threw RRSP and such.He decided that it was unacceptable!He was the one who wanted out! I had to fight him him court for JUST that..what I ended up with I am gratefull for because we would not have been able to exsist without it. The boys are 17 and 14 now and even though the things they want and things they want to do cost more..at least $150 buck a week in groceries not mention clothing them...everything has escalated but the same amount of money has stayed the same..I have never asked for more even though I should have.
So because I chose the right path I and my sons have suffered aot of hardship. At one point when they were growing up, I was working 3 jobs! and even now, at this stage of the game I work 2 jobs. I have nothing. I own nothing. I also owe nothing. I have an apartment, a 2004 civic that I paid off myself and a bit in the emergency savings account but not much else. I work alot to make ends meet and never once has he offered to lighten my financial load. The difference is..he remarried.Owns a multi million dollar company. Owns a huge home about 5 blocks from me backing onto the golf course that he and his wife are members of when they aren't taking one of their many get away vacations because life is so stressful
, two brand new vehicles and a 66 Camero he built a special garage for. A 6 bedroom chalet up north by the ski club they belong to.Life is rough when they have to confer regularly with a Wealth Advisor/agent.They have never know hunger or the fear of having your electricty cut off or the phone disconnected till you can pay it. They have never had to do without the most basic of items so that the kids could eat another day.
Now are you going to sit back and say I didn't deserve child support? Should he have not had a moral obligation to contribute more to their wellbeing and upkeep? I never asked for the divorce. I never shirked my responsibilities to my children. As far as I am concerned women should demand more! fucking soak the bitch. I can say I would do the same if I could turn back time. I would have nailed his balls to the wall. I would have gotten a fancy high priced lawyer like his instead of court appointed legal aid..someone who cared about fighting the good fight instead of how much he was going to put in his wallet.
I am sure there are awful and unfair stories all around, that is just mine. Infact it angers me that someone without a care in the world or children I may add, starts a pointless thread to discuss something he has nothing to do with other then start controversy. Why start such a heated debate? what have you to get from it? knowledge? I somehow doubt that. EVERYONE knows divorce and the subsequent child support issue or alimony is a huge unsettled arguement..and that there is extenuating circumstances on both sides of the coin.Bottom line, you have kids with someone..you (man or woman) are responsible for helping to pay for the wellbeing of said child(ren)
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