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Title: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 17, 2007, 06:02:53 PM
He has to be taller than i am and not overly skinny, so i can feel protected in his arms.
That is, he should be demonstrative enough to actually TAKE ME IN HIS ARMS..

He has to have an overall good personal hygiene because a lot of men don't, so change of underpants every day, teeth brushed at LEAST once a day and a deo that doesn't stinck of cheap.
He also has to know how to use perfume, because the " loads of it from up close" makes me want to puke.

Now i am smoking again, preferable a smoker or a tolerant non smoker and if a smoker, obey some rules so my son isn't passive smoking to his early death.

He has to be extravert in the way he communicates with others, and with me. A communicator. Done enough years trying to get an info as simple as " did you have lunch at work today".

He should be clever enough to realise i have an IQ of a 150 and that i know when people bullshit me and when men think they are clever and lie, i simply loose my respect for them and with respect, of course, my love. Goes hand in hand in my books.

I do not believe in open relationships. IN theory, i do.
In practise, it is dangerous, because most men forget or don't want to use condoms with a partner.
I don't want std's or aids or hepathitis.
I have one life and refuse to live it in hell because of a zipper that was crying " open me open me" every bloody 5 mn !

As above, cheating is off. I will never trust anyone with my life.
Too many illnesses around..

I want a man who reads a lot and a lot of everything, serious and not so serious so we have things to talk about. A man interested in learning.
I left school at 15, my knowledge isn't quite academic, i learnt along the way and in books.
So a man who has had a life rich of many experiences as well, because men who walked a straight narrow road do not understand me nor do i understand them.

I want capable to handle me. I am difficult. I have phobias, i believe in ghosts and paranormal, i sometimes get in touch with the dead, i am a bit or even a lot weird in some aspects.
This man should never doubt this side of me, nor be scared of it nor laugh at me for it or look down on me or try to use me.

I don't like to get up early. Early birds pass my way. It's a no.

I want a man who loves food just as much as i do.

I kind of yoyo with my weight and at times of my life, i can be very slim, and at others, fatter. I will NOT do something for anyone but me.

I will not change for anyone ever anymore. The special someone must understand that.

I want a man capable to understand i am a mix of a lot of culture and social backgrounds and never look down on me for being too posh or too poor depending which side of the family we're talking about.

I want a man who will not think of himself as my saviour. Such a man would annoy me quickly and be booted just as quick.

I want a man i can laugh with. I have had a difficult life. It's my daily life has to be boring and annoying and too serious, it's a no, i am all this very well by myself.

I want a man who will choose ME before family. I am either his family, or i am nothing. If i get on with his, perfect, if i don't, it's me otherwise, bye bye. i've just done 7 years of hell. I learnt.

I want a man who doesn't take drugs ( had one), who moderately drinks or not at all ( mother alcoholic), who does a little sport or a lot ( i'd enjoy someone i can roller blade with or bicycle with or even do cardio with).

I want a man who enjoys sex for the simple healthy thing it is.

I want a man who isn't sexually deviant, i had that, i now spot it easily, not only will i dump the man but i am capable to report him to the police.

I want a man capable to be a hero for my son. Not just a dad, but a bloody hero.
I know some men are good, only, there are very few of them.

Also, i now spot men who prefer my kid to me, so beware, because i practised the kick in the balls so not worth trying to seduce the mother to get the kid, it would be like practising their own death.

I think that after the past 7 years, i will have a huge problem trusting a man, especially around my son.

Single mothers are targeted by sickos.

In a few months, i will, maybe, tell a tale, once all is over and done with for good, legally too.

And hell i never want to see hear or live again.

I don't think anyone is capable to bring me happiness.

Men nowadays seem bi, gay, sexually violent and obsessed, into all sorts of yucks, into coke, alcohol, in france they are manipulative and abusive, machos, etc etc...

My mother told me today " just get yourself a penis when you need one and let them live alone"...

It's nice to fantasize and all, but really, i am not into mothering a man, or nursing, i am pretty selfish and can't be bothered...

I was telling a neighbour the other day of the heaven it must be to have a man who is gone half the year so he isn't in your legs annoying you on a daily basis..and she said " ooh, already there and you're half our age lol"...

But yeah, that's how i feel, i couldn't stand having a man for myself all year around, he would really piss me off.

The every day thing would just end up in arguments because i was always affraid to say to a man" just go away, i want you out so i can breathe and be by myself"...

You can't do that when you live with someone, can you ?

********************************************
Right, your turns.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: The Catcher on June 17, 2007, 06:05:57 PM
a female with good looks who cooks and cleans.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: mrlee on June 17, 2007, 07:36:16 PM
lol at the difference in post sizes.

shows the difference between man and woman


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: metallex78 on June 17, 2007, 07:52:57 PM
Jessica, you certainly seem to be asking for alot of what you want in a partner and you're being very particular in what you're looking for, but you know what, good for you. You shouldn't have to settle for anything less. You may be looking for a long time to find someone that fits that exact criteria, or close to it, but I wish you the best of luck in finding that special someone.

I think just by reading that too, it's pretty true that women look and want so much more in a partner than men do.
Us men are simple creatures and I think that's what makes relationships such a hard thing to find and keep going for years and years.

I've been single for a few years now, dating on and off, but I haven't really found that person I'm after.
And I don't consider myself to be picky or anything. I'm just trying to find a cute, easy going girl with a good sense of humour and similar interests.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: RJ1221 on June 17, 2007, 07:54:09 PM
lol at the difference in post sizes.

shows the difference between man and woman

just shows you how picky women are compared to men when it comes to choosing a partner


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: RJ1221 on June 17, 2007, 07:55:12 PM
I'm just trying to find a cute, easy going girl with a good sense of humour and similar interests.

thats pretty much what every guy wants


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: metallex78 on June 17, 2007, 07:56:53 PM
I'm just trying to find a cute, easy going girl with a good sense of humour and similar interests.

thats pretty much what every guy wants

Yeah, true. Then look at Jessica's list of what she's looking for in a partner. Big difference huh! :yes:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: The Dog on June 17, 2007, 07:58:56 PM
That was way too long of a list.  i'm all about not settling, but you have to be willing to compromise.  i think if you are going to list out things, your list should be no longer then 10 things and they should all be very broad, but important things like: wants to have kids, same religion as me, etc....

just curious, why are you posting this on a GNR message board anyways? :)   are you hoping to find Mr. Right in "the jungle"? haha


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: RJ1221 on June 17, 2007, 07:59:57 PM
I'm just trying to find a cute, easy going girl with a good sense of humour and similar interests.

thats pretty much what every guy wants

Yeah, true. Then look at Jessica's list of what she's looking for in a partner. Big difference huh! :yes:

yup, thats why i think women are much more shallow then men


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: The Catcher on June 17, 2007, 08:00:47 PM
no offense but i don't think jessica's post is representative of how most women think. sure some are too picky, but that's their problem. if a woman demands me to be a certain way instead of just loving me for me then so long bitch.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Krispy Kreme on June 17, 2007, 08:44:03 PM
He has to be taller than i am and not overly skinny, so i can feel protected in his arms.
That is, he should be demonstrative enough to actually TAKE ME IN HIS ARMS..

He has to have an overall good personal hygiene because a lot of men don't, so change of underpants every day, teeth brushed at LEAST once a day and a deo that doesn't stinck of cheap.
He also has to know how to use perfume, because the " loads of it from up close" makes me want to puke.

Now i am smoking again, preferable a smoker or a tolerant non smoker and if a smoker, obey some rules so my son isn't passive smoking to his early death.

He has to be extravert in the way he communicates with others, and with me. A communicator. Done enough years trying to get an info as simple as " did you have lunch at work today".

He should be clever enough to realise i have an IQ of a 150 and that i know when people bullshit me and when men think they are clever and lie, i simply loose my respect for them and with respect, of course, my love. Goes hand in hand in my books.

I do not believe in open relationships. IN theory, i do.
In practise, it is dangerous, because most men forget or don't want to use condoms with a partner.
I don't want std's or aids or hepathitis.
I have one life and refuse to live it in hell because of a zipper that was crying " open me open me" every bloody 5 mn !

As above, cheating is off. I will never trust anyone with my life.
Too many illnesses around..

I want a man who reads a lot and a lot of everything, serious and not so serious so we have things to talk about. A man interested in learning.
I left school at 15, my knowledge isn't quite academic, i learnt along the way and in books.
So a man who has had a life rich of many experiences as well, because men who walked a straight narrow road do not understand me nor do i understand them.

I want capable to handle me. I am difficult. I have phobias, i believe in ghosts and paranormal, i sometimes get in touch with the dead, i am a bit or even a lot weird in some aspects.
This man should never doubt this side of me, nor be scared of it nor laugh at me for it or look down on me or try to use me.

I don't like to get up early. Early birds pass my way. It's a no.

I want a man who loves food just as much as i do.

I kind of yoyo with my weight and at times of my life, i can be very slim, and at others, fatter. I will NOT do something for anyone but me.

I will not change for anyone ever anymore. The special someone must understand that.

I want a man capable to understand i am a mix of a lot of culture and social backgrounds and never look down on me for being too posh or too poor depending which side of the family we're talking about.

I want a man who will not think of himself as my saviour. Such a man would annoy me quickly and be booted just as quick.

I want a man i can laugh with. I have had a difficult life. It's my daily life has to be boring and annoying and too serious, it's a no, i am all this very well by myself.

I want a man who will choose ME before family. I am either his family, or i am nothing. If i get on with his, perfect, if i don't, it's me otherwise, bye bye. i've just done 7 years of hell. I learnt.

I want a man who doesn't take drugs ( had one), who moderately drinks or not at all ( mother alcoholic), who does a little sport or a lot ( i'd enjoy someone i can roller blade with or bicycle with or even do cardio with).

I want a man who enjoys sex for the simple healthy thing it is.

I want a man who isn't sexually deviant, i had that, i now spot it easily, not only will i dump the man but i am capable to report him to the police.

I want a man capable to be a hero for my son. Not just a dad, but a bloody hero.
I know some men are good, only, there are very few of them.

Also, i now spot men who prefer my kid to me, so beware, because i practised the kick in the balls so not worth trying to seduce the mother to get the kid, it would be like practising their own death.

I think that after the past 7 years, i will have a huge problem trusting a man, especially around my son.

Single mothers are targeted by sickos.

In a few months, i will, maybe, tell a tale, once all is over and done with for good, legally too.

And hell i never want to see hear or live again.

I don't think anyone is capable to bring me happiness.

Men nowadays seem bi, gay, sexually violent and obsessed, into all sorts of yucks, into coke, alcohol, in france they are manipulative and abusive, machos, etc etc...

My mother told me today " just get yourself a penis when you need one and let them live alone"...

It's nice to fantasize and all, but really, i am not into mothering a man, or nursing, i am pretty selfish and can't be bothered...

I was telling a neighbour the other day of the heaven it must be to have a man who is gone half the year so he isn't in your legs annoying you on a daily basis..and she said " ooh, already there and you're half our age lol"...

But yeah, that's how i feel, i couldn't stand having a man for myself all year around, he would really piss me off.

The every day thing would just end up in arguments because i was always affraid to say to a man" just go away, i want you out so i can breathe and be by myself"...

You can't do that when you live with someone, can you ?

********************************************
Right, your turns.


That? is quite the? list! At least? you used? the word "ideal" correctly, because I am not sure? such a person exists. Reminds me of the Zeppelin song-Going to California-that says "looking? for a woman who's never been born."

Good luck  finding? the person you need/want.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 17, 2007, 08:51:17 PM
Jessica, you crack me up.  The paradoxes hurt my head.  You have an i.q. of 150 but you smoke cigarettes.  You have an i.q. of 150 yet you believe in ghosts and the paranormal.
"i am pretty selfish and can't be bothered...," yet later you explain, "He has to be extravert in the way he communicates with others, and with me. A communicator."   :hihi:


I believe in love.  I'm married to the woman of my dreams and have 2 wonderful kids.  I couldn't ask for anything more.   :love:  :love:  :love:

 


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: TAP on June 17, 2007, 08:55:32 PM

 i have an IQ of a 150


You hide it well.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: The Catcher on June 17, 2007, 08:57:32 PM

 i have an IQ of a 150


You hide it well.

ahahahaha :rofl:
couldn't have said it better myself


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Krispy Kreme on June 17, 2007, 08:59:02 PM
Jessica, you crack me up.? The paradoxes hurt my head.? You have an i.q. of 150 but you smoke cigarettes.? You have an i.q. of 150 yet you believe in ghosts and the paranormal.
"i am pretty selfish and can't be bothered...," yet later you explain, "He has to be extravert in the way he communicates with others, and with me. A communicator."? ?:hihi:


I believe in love.? I'm married to the woman of my dreams and have 2 wonderful kids.? I couldn't ask for anything more.? ?:love:? :love:? :love:


I second that! My wife is not "perfect" (neither am I) but she is perfect for me and we ?are perfect ?for each other. I would not want anyone ?else, and I am ?so lucky to have found ?her. (The devil-step ?daughter ?is another question). But the point is that there ?is no "perfection," so although there ?is no reason to "settle" the pursuit ?of perfection is bound to fail and lead to loneliness ?and frustration. IMHO.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 17, 2007, 09:05:21 PM
Krispy, I was just commenting to my wife what a cool poster you are.  Since it's Father's Day, my wife and I were just chilling in front of the computer eating a pint of Ben & Jerry's chocolate fudge brownie.  Enjoy the rest of the day!  Remember, we get anything we want on 2 days out of the year!  Father's Day and your birthday.  Enjoy!
My day would have been perfect if Tiger could have sunk one of those long putts he had all day...oh well, can't win 'em all!  :)

 :beer: to Krispy!!!


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Krispy Kreme on June 17, 2007, 09:15:00 PM
Krispy, I was just commenting to my wife what a cool poster you are.? Since it's Father's Day, my wife and I were just chilling in front of the computer eating a pint of Ben & Jerry's chocolate fudge brownie.? Enjoy the rest of the day!? Remember, we get anything we want on 2 days out of the year!? Father's Day and your birthday.? Enjoy!
My day would have been perfect if Tiger could have sunk one of those long putts he had all day...oh well, can't win 'em all!? :)

 :beer: to Krispy!!!

Well, thank you!! Double beers to you too, because you also are? a cool? poster! I am joking here, but on my special day, my "want" list? was fulfilled? by taking my wife? to stores and buying her? stuff! We joked? about? it all day. But she is worth it,? and I am lucky to be? able to buy things for her that she wants, no matter? which day it? is!? :beer: :beer:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GNRreunioneventually on June 17, 2007, 09:17:04 PM
some one that likes 80s hair music and G'n'R KISS and all the other bands i like and that hates liberals and rap. Pretty smile cute face long hair.

if i was picky and could get extras i'd have to say C tits with a nice ass :hihi: and curves and hair in all the right places. But i'm not picky so i'll take what ever i can get

krispy and axl4prez2004:

i solute you both for finding what every dude wants happiness with not to much bitching : ok:

:peace:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: metallex78 on June 17, 2007, 09:33:18 PM
As for my ideal partner, I'm not too fussed at all really.

I'd prefer white caucasian, just because that's my background, but I think I could fall for any girl if they worked their charms on me. She has to be pretty (although beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway, and I'm no model, so I'm not expecting one either), and have a cute smile. Around the same height as myself or shorter (I'm a shortass!) Blonde or brunette. Smart, but not a smartass. Has a positive outlook on life. Loving and understanding, with a good soul and good sense of humour. Doesn't smoke, but enjoys getting drunk and silly from time to time. And most importantly, she has to at least be able to put up with my GN'R obsession! : ok:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: RJ1221 on June 17, 2007, 10:52:37 PM

And Jessica's set herself up with a list that ensures she will always be disappointed by men.


:beer:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 17, 2007, 11:18:31 PM
Just someone that will love me and accept me for the person that I am.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GNRreunioneventually on June 18, 2007, 12:06:04 AM
Just someone that will love me and accept me for the person that I am.

and some one that you can bury your face in for 6 hours right? ;)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 18, 2007, 12:25:27 AM
Yes, a nice, round soft ass...not massive, butt big.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Bill 213 on June 18, 2007, 01:27:26 AM
My ideal woman is a very strong and independant woman who isn't afraid to stand up and bust her ass for a living just like myself.  I don't like women who think the man is supposed to do everything while she sits home on her ass eating twinkies and bon bons watching Oprah (thank you Peg Bundy!).  I also like a woman that is funny and easy going and not afraid to relax and just be a good friend at times.  Women that are too clingy and always want to cuddle and hold hands and shit can be annoying.  I also like a woman with natural beauty...if you have to paint yourself up like Bozo the clown to be presentable..ack. 


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: SLCPUNK on June 18, 2007, 03:25:06 AM
He has to be taller than i am and not overly skinny, so i can feel protected in his arms.
That is, he should be demonstrative enough to actually TAKE ME IN HIS ARMS..

He has to have an overall good personal hygiene because a lot of men don't, so change of underpants every day, teeth brushed at LEAST once a day and a deo that doesn't stinck of cheap.
He also has to know how to use perfume, because the " loads of it from up close" makes me want to puke.

Now i am smoking again, preferable a smoker or a tolerant non smoker and if a smoker, obey some rules so my son isn't passive smoking to his early death.

He has to be extravert in the way he communicates with others, and with me. A communicator. Done enough years trying to get an info as simple as " did you have lunch at work today".

He should be clever enough to realise i have an IQ of a 150 and that i know when people bullshit me and when men think they are clever and lie, i simply loose my respect for them and with respect, of course, my love. Goes hand in hand in my books.

I do not believe in open relationships. IN theory, i do.
In practise, it is dangerous, because most men forget or don't want to use condoms with a partner.
I don't want std's or aids or hepathitis.
I have one life and refuse to live it in hell because of a zipper that was crying " open me open me" every bloody 5 mn !

As above, cheating is off. I will never trust anyone with my life.
Too many illnesses around..

I want a man who reads a lot and a lot of everything, serious and not so serious so we have things to talk about. A man interested in learning.
I left school at 15, my knowledge isn't quite academic, i learnt along the way and in books.
So a man who has had a life rich of many experiences as well, because men who walked a straight narrow road do not understand me nor do i understand them.

I want capable to handle me. I am difficult. I have phobias, i believe in ghosts and paranormal, i sometimes get in touch with the dead, i am a bit or even a lot weird in some aspects.
This man should never doubt this side of me, nor be scared of it nor laugh at me for it or look down on me or try to use me.

I don't like to get up early. Early birds pass my way. It's a no.

I want a man who loves food just as much as i do.

I kind of yoyo with my weight and at times of my life, i can be very slim, and at others, fatter. I will NOT do something for anyone but me.

I will not change for anyone ever anymore. The special someone must understand that.

I want a man capable to understand i am a mix of a lot of culture and social backgrounds and never look down on me for being too posh or too poor depending which side of the family we're talking about.

I want a man who will not think of himself as my saviour. Such a man would annoy me quickly and be booted just as quick.

I want a man i can laugh with. I have had a difficult life. It's my daily life has to be boring and annoying and too serious, it's a no, i am all this very well by myself.

I want a man who will choose ME before family. I am either his family, or i am nothing. If i get on with his, perfect, if i don't, it's me otherwise, bye bye. i've just done 7 years of hell. I learnt.

I want a man who doesn't take drugs ( had one), who moderately drinks or not at all ( mother alcoholic), who does a little sport or a lot ( i'd enjoy someone i can roller blade with or bicycle with or even do cardio with).

I want a man who enjoys sex for the simple healthy thing it is.

I want a man who isn't sexually deviant, i had that, i now spot it easily, not only will i dump the man but i am capable to report him to the police.

I want a man capable to be a hero for my son. Not just a dad, but a bloody hero.
I know some men are good, only, there are very few of them.

Also, i now spot men who prefer my kid to me, so beware, because i practised the kick in the balls so not worth trying to seduce the mother to get the kid, it would be like practising their own death.

I think that after the past 7 years, i will have a huge problem trusting a man, especially around my son.

Single mothers are targeted by sickos.

In a few months, i will, maybe, tell a tale, once all is over and done with for good, legally too.

And hell i never want to see hear or live again.

I don't think anyone is capable to bring me happiness.

Men nowadays seem bi, gay, sexually violent and obsessed, into all sorts of yucks, into coke, alcohol, in france they are manipulative and abusive, machos, etc etc...

My mother told me today " just get yourself a penis when you need one and let them live alone"...

It's nice to fantasize and all, but really, i am not into mothering a man, or nursing, i am pretty selfish and can't be bothered...

I was telling a neighbour the other day of the heaven it must be to have a man who is gone half the year so he isn't in your legs annoying you on a daily basis..and she said " ooh, already there and you're half our age lol"...

But yeah, that's how i feel, i couldn't stand having a man for myself all year around, he would really piss me off.

The every day thing would just end up in arguments because i was always affraid to say to a man" just go away, i want you out so i can breathe and be by myself"...

You can't do that when you live with someone, can you ?

********************************************
Right, your turns.





Prepare to be alone most of your life, or unhappy with your mate.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Sin Cut on June 18, 2007, 03:39:18 AM
Jessica Alba.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 04:38:52 AM
well, i may be unhappy, but it won't be worse, because a lot of the above i accepted in men before and i didn't like it and will not accept it any more.

So if i never find, i don't mind, to be honest, i am not looking.

Why did i post this ? out of curiosity, just to see what others look for in all honesty.

I am not looking at finding someone in the gnr community.

As for having an IQ and smoking, i don't see the link, i started smoking at 10 years old and both my experience and conscience were not develloped enough to rationalize it. Once the addiction has settled in, it's easier to crap talk than give up. Although i did give up twice already. Stress gets me and like every one of us, i have a way of dealing with it. Mine isnt healthy, so what ?

As for compromise, since someone mentionned an interesting word, well, compromise is always something i did.

As my grandfather says, the more you HAVE to compromise in a relationship, the less right the person is for you.

Now i am that close to 32, i can say i have lived WITH men since i was 15. I had long relationships.

So i learnt along the way and this list was made out of my very own experience and out of what i cannot bear any more.

To each their own.

Actually, sterling mentionned i will always be disappointed ?

I could be if i had added a physique and an age, a job type and an income type, but i haven't. Because i couldn't care less.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: RJ1221 on June 18, 2007, 12:49:31 PM
you're 31 years old?  :o

i thought you were 17ish.....


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Mal Brossard on June 18, 2007, 12:57:36 PM
Boobs.

Done deal.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: estrangedpaul on June 18, 2007, 01:59:44 PM
He has to be taller than i am and not overly skinny.
I kind of yoyo with my weight and at times of my life, i can be very slim, and at others, fatter. I will NOT do something for anyone but me.
So his physical appearance is important, but later on you say he should accept your weight regardless of whether you're fat or skinny. Totally hypocritical.
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I want capable to handle me. I am difficult. I have phobias, i believe in ghosts and paranormal, i sometimes get in touch with the dead, i am a bit or even a lot weird in some aspects.
This man should never doubt this side of me, nor be scared of it nor laugh at me for it or look down on me or try to use me.
If your weird yourself, why can't you accept a man who might be considered weird. This post doesn't suggest you would.

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I want a man i can laugh with. I have had a difficult life. It's my daily life has to be boring and annoying and too serious, it's a no, i am all this very well by myself.
So you want a man who is fun to be around but then you say you're not fun to be around yourself. Why do you think you might attract the wrong kinda guy? Why would these fun guys be attracted to you if you're that depressed. Sounds like you need to work on yourself before judging others.
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I want a man who enjoys sex for the simple healthy thing it is.
That shouldn't be a problem.
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I think that after the past 7 years, i will have a huge problem trusting a man, especially around my son.
Oh come on, i know the last seven years have been weird, but Axl never actually gave a fixed release date for CD in that time. Seems a bit unfair to lose your trust in men because of the CD saga. :hihi:

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Single mothers are targeted by sickos.
Your definition of a sicko is probably someone who doesn't meet all your criteria for a man....i don't think its anything to do with your personal circumstances that you can't find a man you like.

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It's nice to fantasize and all, but really, i am not into mothering a man, or nursing, i am pretty selfish and can't be bothered...
You clearly want someone who is completely unselfish even though you admit your selfish yourself...good luck with that. ::)

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I want a man who will choose ME before family. I am either his family, or i am nothing.

I was telling a neighbour the other day of the heaven it must be to have a man who is gone half the year so he isn't in your legs annoying you on a daily basis..and she said " ooh, already there and you're half our age lol"...

But yeah, that's how i feel, i couldn't stand having a man for myself all year around, he would really piss me off.

So you want him to choose you before his family, but you don't want him to be around all year...sounds unfair.

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Your post summarises most women's views on relationship that I've been with and why they ended. Women want you to put up and accept all their faults but are unwilling to put up with the guy's imperfections...so the woman can put on weight and the guy must understand, but if the guy puts on weight, he must again understand it makes her unhappy.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: SLCPUNK on June 18, 2007, 02:10:13 PM


Your post summarises most women's views on relationship that I've been with and why they ended. Women want you to put up and accept all their faults but are unwilling to put up with the guy's imperfections...so the woman can put on weight and the guy must understand, but if the guy puts on weight, he must again understand it makes her unhappy.

I think it summarizes most immature women's views, but not all. I've seen plenty of men have the same outlook towards women. I like you breakdown of the post though.

Life is too short for bullshit like this, way too short.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeorgeSteele on June 18, 2007, 02:30:25 PM
My knee-jerk reaction was to join the fun and bust Jessica's chops but the truth is that I admire her for knowing herself so well. ?And I personally don't believe that guys aren't picky. ?Anyone that will accept you for who you are? ?Anyone? ?If Rosie O'Donnell were to accept me for who I was, you know what, thanks but no thanks.





Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Annie on June 18, 2007, 03:05:00 PM
Axl Rose is my ideal man!


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 18, 2007, 05:26:40 PM
someone that will put up with me and my mouth ;D


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 05:43:56 PM
So his physical appearance is important, but later on you say he should accept your weight regardless of whether you're fat or skinny. Totally hypocritical.

Taller and normal built, that leaves endless possibilities, it's not a criteria that is far stretched. And yes, he should accept me as i am, because i accepted very fat and very skinny men, who, themselves, did not accept it if i put 10 pounds on. The most important part of the sentence was a man who understands i can, at times, be bigger. This is linked to emotionnal issues and when i feel better, i loose weight.

Basically, if a man wants me to be understanding with him, he has to be with me. Not one way streets anymore


If your weird yourself, why can't you accept a man who might be considered weird. This post doesn't suggest you would

I sure would. Someone out of the norm isn't a problem, as long as it isn't one for us

So you want a man who is fun to be around but then you say you're not fun to be around yourself. Why do you think you might attract the wrong kinda guy? Why would these fun guys be attracted to you if you're that depressed. Sounds like you need to work on yourself before judging others.

If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.

Your definition of a sicko is probably someone who doesn't meet all your criteria for a man....i don't think its anything to do with your personal circumstances that you can't find a man you like.

I know exactly what a sicko is, and I'll be ultra picky for who will be around my son. I think single mothers could understand this part better.

You clearly want someone who is completely unselfish even though you admit your selfish yourself...good luck with that.

I am normally selfish. I am not a nurse, i am not a cleaner, i am not a cook, i am not a housekeeper, i am not paid to do it, i am not a homeslave, i do it if i want to, if i don't want to, i don't HAVE to. Men have arms and legs too. It is caring FOR me and not after an adult person who can take care of himself. All men i lived with had mothers and yet needed a woman wiping their bum like their mom. Not me. I am someone independant who can wipe his own. someone ADULT.

So you want him to choose you before his family, but you don't want him to be around all year...sounds unfair.

Who said life was fair ? There are dozens of jobs that take men away for some time..or take me away..not everyone is made for the day to day shit. I find you very intolerant of other people's differences.

I think you misunderstand women. Having criterias is a part of getting older and not accepting people just because they came your way, but getting older is about making choices and not feeling guilty about it, not feeling guided by people's ideas or views on our own life, refusing to settle for what makes one unhappy and going forward. Everyone has flaws. I accept flaws. But what i talked about isn't flaws, to me, it is worse. Not liveable.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 05:48:03 PM
My knee-jerk reaction was to join the fun and bust Jessica's chops but the truth is that I admire her for knowing herself so well. ?And I personally don't believe that guys aren't picky. ?Anyone that will accept you for who you are? ?Anyone? ?If Rosie O'Donnell were to accept me for who I was, you know what, thanks but no thanks.





No one accepts you for who you are, not until you are much older. I will not change anyone and no one will change me, simply because it is virtually impossible to change.

This is why i am narrowing the qualities i look for in someone, so that i come as close as i can, one day, to someone who can bring me what i need. And reverse.

A few months back, the parental shrink ( =judge's order to see one for 6 months, over now) told me that i never made a choice in terms of love, i had just accepted what had come my way and that i had met wrong people because i wans'(t picky enough, because i had felt it was bad to ask what i needed.

I do now. For my sake, and for my son's sake.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 05:49:15 PM


Actually, sterling mentionned i will always be disappointed ?

I could be if i had added a physique and an age, a job type and an income type, but i haven't. Because i couldn't care less.

I think you missed my point.? You won't be disappointed because your standards are too high.? What I was saying is that you are setting yourself up to be disappointed.? Meaning, you want to be disappointed.? Thus proving that all men are evil and you are better off alone.? Also, reaffirming your identity as the victim.?




Sterling, read below, i have been told by a peer of yours that my standards were not high enough..don't you love it when profressionals disagree ?  ;D


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeorgeSteele on June 18, 2007, 07:05:07 PM
My knee-jerk reaction was to join the fun and bust Jessica's chops but the truth is that I admire her for knowing herself so well. ?And I personally don't believe that guys aren't picky. ?Anyone that will accept you for who you are? ?Anyone? ?If Rosie O'Donnell were to accept me for who I was, you know what, thanks but no thanks.





No one accepts you for who you are, not until you are much older. I will not change anyone and no one will change me, simply because it is virtually impossible to change.

This is why i am narrowing the qualities i look for in someone, so that i come as close as i can, one day, to someone who can bring me what i need. And reverse.

A few months back, the parental shrink ( =judge's order to see one for 6 months, over now) told me that i never made a choice in terms of love, i had just accepted what had come my way and that i had met wrong people because i wans'(t picky enough, because i had felt it was bad to ask what i needed.

I do now. For my sake, and for my son's sake.

Whether or not it's possible, my point on acceptance was that it's not enough to simply be accepted, you want to be accepted by the right person.? How to define that right person is the complicated part.

Also, IMO your standards were not that picky.? Height/physique minimum, not a slob, communicates important thoughts to you, not a bullshitter, no cheating, has stuff to talk about with you, won't laugh in your face when you discuss ghosts, lets you sleep late, likes food, tolerates 10-pound weight fluctuations and cultural differences, no God complex, likes to laugh and fuck, loyal, and not a pedophile.? Perhaps the not being around you for 6 months was unusual, but I suspect that after spending some time with you, he'll be OK with that (I kid, I kid).? Most of those seemed more like basic prerequisites to me where even if you met a guy with all those requirements, you still might find that you're just not that into him.



Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: RJ1221 on June 18, 2007, 07:16:55 PM
i dont care what anyone says, physical appearance is the most important thing to everyone when it comes to choosing a partner

whats the first thing that attracts you to someone? their physical appearance, THAN you go from there. you don't look at someone for the first time without even knowing them and say to yourself "wow! she/he has a great personality!"


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: SLCPUNK on June 18, 2007, 07:21:47 PM
I think a great personality can trump less than flawless looks and a nasty attitude can make a beauty queen lose her appeal quick.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 07:52:06 PM
My knee-jerk reaction was to join the fun and bust Jessica's chops but the truth is that I admire her for knowing herself so well. ?And I personally don't believe that guys aren't picky. ?Anyone that will accept you for who you are? ?Anyone? ?If Rosie O'Donnell were to accept me for who I was, you know what, thanks but no thanks.





No one accepts you for who you are, not until you are much older. I will not change anyone and no one will change me, simply because it is virtually impossible to change.

This is why i am narrowing the qualities i look for in someone, so that i come as close as i can, one day, to someone who can bring me what i need. And reverse.

A few months back, the parental shrink ( =judge's order to see one for 6 months, over now) told me that i never made a choice in terms of love, i had just accepted what had come my way and that i had met wrong people because i wans'(t picky enough, because i had felt it was bad to ask what i needed.

I do now. For my sake, and for my son's sake.

Whether or not it's possible, my point on acceptance was that it's not enough to simply be accepted, you want to be accepted by the right person.? How to define that right person is the complicated part.

Also, IMO your standards were not that picky.? Height/physique minimum, not a slob, communicates important thoughts to you, not a bullshitter, no cheating, has stuff to talk about with you, won't laugh in your face when you discuss ghosts, lets you sleep late, likes food, tolerates 10-pound weight fluctuations and cultural differences, no God complex, likes to laugh and fuck, loyal, and not a pedophile.? Perhaps the not being around you for 6 months was unusual, but I suspect that after spending some time with you, he'll be OK with that (I kid, I kid).? Most of those seemed more like basic prerequisites to me where even if you met a guy with all those requirements, you still might find that you're just not that into him.



Thank you.

I didn't think i was this picky either. Not abnormally. I have been honest and posted this to see what other people look for, as we are all extremely different individuals. I guess some people don't actually know what they want or need.

Having a child and a child in danger around his own family, i really had to rethink a lot of things, including personal relationships.

It's a hurtful but interesting process.

I am evolving once more..

You know, i met women ( to go back to picky bits) who wanted a man who was attractive and rich, prepared to cope with them being arses as long as they " provided".

I provide for me and my son, and will keep on doing so, i don't " need" a man for that. I am not interested in a man for how much he earns.

I have dated ugly men but to me, they had " something". So on the looks front, it either clicks, or it doesn't. A guy doesn't have to look like a top model with the six pack and a tight buttock.

If i ever redate seriously oneday, i just want to date someone so i don't loose my time. As someone said, life is short and i have " lost" years in mistakes. Although i tremendously learnt in doing them.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 07:53:59 PM


Actually, sterling mentionned i will always be disappointed ?

I could be if i had added a physique and an age, a job type and an income type, but i haven't. Because i couldn't care less.

I think you missed my point.? You won't be disappointed because your standards are too high.? What I was saying is that you are setting yourself up to be disappointed.? Meaning, you want to be disappointed.? Thus proving that all men are evil and you are better off alone.? Also, reaffirming your identity as the victim.?




Sterling, read below, i have been told by a peer of yours that my standards were not high enough..don't you love it when profressionals disagree ?? ;D

No, you weren't told anything by a peer of mine, because I'm not a therapist.? All you are getting is my personal opinion.

And there's a big difference between making smart choices and holding all men responsible for the evils of a few, which is what I think you are doing.? Be picky about finding someone with a good heart who treats you and your child well.? Much more than that is just an excuse to keep people away.? If you want to be close to another human being, you have to be vulnerable.? Don't want to be vulnerable?? Then you'll be safe and lonely.?

Well, that's where i disagree, i think a lot of people ( men AND women) have to be kept away. You can't get on with everyone, you can't love everyone nor can they. Why waste time and breathing space ?

Vulnerable yes, but not totally open to a point of stupidity.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 07:56:44 PM
i dont care what anyone says, physical appearance is the most important thing to everyone when it comes to choosing a partner

whats the first thing that attracts you to someone? their physical appearance, THAN you go from there. you don't look at someone for the first time without even knowing them and say to yourself "wow! she/he has a great personality!"

not physical appearance, physical details for me.

usually, all men had a beautiful smile in my life.Even the ugly ones. I may sound like i speak of horses, but they had good teeth.. :rofl:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 18, 2007, 07:56:53 PM
I was at a bar the other day and a woman smiled at me. I went over and asked if I could buy her a drink---she said yes. After I while I talked about my love of asses. I asked if I could see her bare naked buttocks, sniff them and rub my face in them for six hours.

She got up and left, I don't understand what went wrong? :no:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 18, 2007, 08:00:36 PM
I agree with rj1221 and Pharmo on this one.  Yes, physical attraction is the first key.  But, if the chick's mind isn't in sync with yours, it aint gonna work. 

The ideal woman for me is not only my lover, she's my best friend.  That's my wife.  Yeah, it's sickeningly sweet, but I'm corny like that. 

Now, just for fun, my ideal woman needs to be physically beautiful, intelligent, and an absolute nurturer that loves kids.  Patience, understanding, curiosity, intelligence, 100% faithful and honest.  Did I mention athletic too?  God damn I lucked out!   :love:

Jessica, all kidding aside, you'll find love when and where you least expect it.  Why?  Because that's when the walls are down and you can be yourself.  You've obviously been through a lot of crap and you are doing what is most important, raising your child.  The last thing a child needs is guy after guy being introduced into their life only to be a hazy memory a couple months later. 

Good luck.   :beer:



Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 18, 2007, 08:07:05 PM

Jessica, all kidding aside, you'll find love when and where you least expect it.? Why?? Because that's when the walls are down and you can be yourself.? You've obviously been through a lot of crap and you are doing what is most important, raising your child.? The last thing a child needs is guy after guy being introduced into their life only to be a hazy memory a couple months later.?

Good luck.? ?:beer:



Cheers.

I won't do this, dating guy after guy etc..

Plus, i have a rule :

Should i date a guy and have an intimate relationship, he will not set foot in my home for a long time.
I'd rather have my son babysat all night by my cousin than introduce a man to my son unless he is for keeps.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 18, 2007, 08:35:38 PM
I was at a bar the other day and a woman smiled at me. I went over and asked if I could buy her a drink---she said yes. After I while I talked about my love of asses. I asked if I could see her bare naked buttocks, sniff them and rub my face in them for six hours.

She got up and left, I don't understand what went wrong? :no:
I told you I needed more then one drink! :hihi:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 18, 2007, 08:37:48 PM
As soon as I read the first sentence from Nixon, I knew it was made up..."I was at a bar the other day and a woman smiled at me."  Yeah, like we're gonna believe that from you.   :hihi:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 18, 2007, 08:39:45 PM
I like butts, one of God's greatest gifts, IMHO. The touch of nice, round, soft bare-naked buttocks of a woman is all a man really needs in this life.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 18, 2007, 08:41:14 PM
As soon as I read the first sentence from Nixon, I knew it was made up..."I was at a bar the other day and a woman smiled at me."? Yeah, like we're gonna believe that from you.? ?:hihi:

I'm no Cary Grant but I'm not bad looking.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 18, 2007, 08:51:55 PM
Just yanking your chain Nixon.   ;D

Women are great.  I'll give 'em 2 thumbs up.  ;)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 18, 2007, 09:04:23 PM
Just yanking your chain Nixon.? ?;D

Women are great.? I'll give 'em 2 thumbs up.? ;)

What would your wife say if you went up to her and asked  if you could burry your head in her bare naked buttocks for 7 hours?


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 18, 2007, 09:26:38 PM
Just yanking your chain Nixon.? ?;D

Women are great.? I'll give 'em 2 thumbs up.? ;)

What would your wife say if you went up to her and asked? if you could burry your head in her bare naked buttocks for 7 hours?
how much is in the chequing account? ??? ;)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 18, 2007, 10:13:31 PM
Just yanking your chain Nixon.   ;D

Women are great.  I'll give 'em 2 thumbs up.  ;)

What would your wife say if you went up to her and asked  if you could burry your head in her bare naked buttocks for 7 hours?

I don't even know how to respond to that question.   :confused:  Like I've said before, you are a good comedian.   :)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: 2112 on June 18, 2007, 10:55:32 PM
humouristic, christian, happy, etc etc no fatty no skinny mixture, avoid bad music as far as possible, not be damaged by sleaze etc etc


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GNRreunioneventually on June 18, 2007, 11:57:49 PM
I was at a bar the other day and a woman smiled at me. I went over and asked if I could buy her a drink---she said yes. After I while I talked about my love of asses. I asked if I could see her bare naked buttocks, sniff them and rub my face in them for six hours.

She got up and left, I don't understand what went wrong? :no:

:rofl: lol she probably thought you were selffish you pleasing your self and not her. What if she wanted to bury her face in your ass............and fight for air ;D

:peace:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Sin Cut on June 19, 2007, 03:56:00 AM
If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.

come to think of it I just realized that I've always been the more social on in my relationships. Damn.

And Jessica hit's this dead on with the opposites, since I've never dated a guy either? : ok:

I am normally selfish. I am not a nurse, i am not a cleaner, i am not a cook, i am not a housekeeper, i am not paid to do it, i am not a homeslave, i do it if i want to, if i don't want to, i don't HAVE to. Men have arms and legs too. It is caring FOR me and not after an adult person who can take care of himself. All men i lived with had mothers and yet needed a woman wiping their bum like their mom. Not me. I am someone independant who can wipe his own. someone ADULT.

What, but the guy should? Since you don't *want* to? I can almost see a scenario where the guy is coming home after a 12-hour shift and you just didn't *want* to take out the trash or you didn't *want* to do the dishes.

Tell me do you expect him to do them or do you just plan to leave it messy?

What the hell is wrong with the picture; if my gf makes me coffee every morning before she goes to work she's what, my slave?
And yes, I'm a morning sleeper so if I go to work before her I'm all ready in such a rush I don't got time to make any coffee.

Pardon me if I'm wrong but if for me if you start to count what he does and what you do around the house I feel the relationship is seriously wrong.

I mean the next step would prolly start to argue "He have to do more around the house since his pay is higher than mine and I wan't us to get the same compensation for every working hour"

Christ.

I think you misunderstand women. Having criterias is a part of getting older and not accepting people just because they came your way, but getting older is about making choices and not feeling guilty about it, not feeling guided by people's ideas or views on our own life, refusing to settle for what makes one unhappy and going forward. Everyone has flaws. I accept flaws. But what i talked about isn't flaws, to me, it is worse. Not liveable.

I dunno know about this, for my experience young people break up more easily and with age there comes a certain perseverance to try to make thing's work out.

At least that's what I hope.

Another thing, I don't think there's any relationship where a pair don't need to make adjustments to make it work.

(Yup, in my case it's that I'm trying not to cheat? :hihi:)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 06:51:01 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 06:57:02 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

But dude! The Proddies and Catholics in Ireland just want some goddam peace!


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: anythinggoes on June 19, 2007, 07:02:32 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

Erm not exactly true i had an 11 year relationship with someone and we were and still are complete opposites of each other, ok it finished last year, but there are still attempts to get the relationship going again

Ok not the best argument but it is possible to be happy with someone opposite to you


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Axl4Prez2004 on June 19, 2007, 07:32:07 AM
Nixon is right again.  Almost all long-term studies show that the opposites attract relationships are short-lived and tend not to work out in the long-run.  What's "fun, exciting, and different," isn't a great equation for long-term stability and happiness...for most folks of course, but there are always going to be exceptions.
 :peace:

I never really went out with an opposite.  I mean, fat, lazy, stupid, and impetuous women never really caught my eye.   ;D


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 07:41:29 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

Erm not exactly true i had an 11 year relationship with someone and we were and still are complete opposites of each other, ok it finished last year, but there are still attempts to get the relationship going again

Ok not the best argument but it is possible to be happy with someone opposite to you

Some opposite-attract relationships may work out, but as a general rule they do not.

Now I have that shitty Paula Abdual (sp?) song stuck in my head!? :rant:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: anythinggoes on June 19, 2007, 07:44:10 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

Erm not exactly true i had an 11 year relationship with someone and we were and still are complete opposites of each other, ok it finished last year, but there are still attempts to get the relationship going again

Ok not the best argument but it is possible to be happy with someone opposite to you

Some opposite-attract relationships may work out, but as a general rule they do not.

Now I have that shitty Paula Abdual (sp?) song stuck in my head!? :rant:

Just in case you couldnt remember all the words

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbknGnZXHUk


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 07:44:49 AM
I had to choreograph a dance to that song!


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Sin Cut on June 19, 2007, 09:22:45 AM
Nixon is right again.? Almost all long-term studies show that the opposites attract relationships are short-lived and tend not to work out in the long-run.? What's "fun, exciting, and different," isn't a great equation for long-term stability and happiness...for most folks of course, but there are always going to be exceptions.
 :peace:

I never really went out with an opposite.? I mean, fat, lazy, stupid, and impetuous women never really caught my eye.? ?;D

 :rofl:

so true dude.

On the other hand if you see a mean, fat, lazy, stupid and impetous man with a supermodel you know the guy got cash.

Like this;

(http://www.4guysfromviewpoint.com/uploadedimages/Rich%20Guy.JPG)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jessica on June 19, 2007, 09:40:15 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

I was talking opposite personalities in some aspects, you got confused there.

Two people can come from similar socioeconomic status, have common interests and values and views and still be extremely different, opposite even.

But you do have a tendency to do this with all threads though, you take one end of a thing without reading it or into it well and reply something that is actually true, although always slightly or sometimes, completely out of the subject.

In this case, a personality that is positive or negative has NOTHING to do with what you mentionned.

And i do agree with what you said, although out of subject.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 09:50:13 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

I was talking opposite personalities in some aspects, you got confused there.

Two people can come from similar socioeconomic status, have common interests and values and views and still be extremely different, opposite even.

But you do have a tendency to do this with all threads though, you take one end of a thing without reading it or into it well and reply something that is actually true, although always slightly or sometimes, completely out of the subject.

In this case, a personality that is positive or negative has NOTHING to do with what you mentionned.

And i do agree with what you said, although out of subject.

Actually, personality is a product of socio-economic status, family values and views......
Interests are dictated by personality.......

So it does have something to do with it. Every human being is formed 50% by their genes and 50% by the environment they grow up in........


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: MCT on June 19, 2007, 10:18:34 AM
My ideal man = MCT.? ?:love:

See guys? Size isn't everything...


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 10:43:21 AM
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If you look at couples, you never get two funnies together or two depressed together. Opposite attracts and feed on one another. Your comment was a bit immature.
I can't quote anything offhand, but in the long-run, studies find that opposites DO NOT attract. Long lasting relationships are formed from when two people share similar socioeconomic status, interests, and world/religous views.

I was talking opposite personalities in some aspects, you got confused there.

Two people can come from similar socioeconomic status, have common interests and values and views and still be extremely different, opposite even.

But you do have a tendency to do this with all threads though, you take one end of a thing without reading it or into it well and reply something that is actually true, although always slightly or sometimes, completely out of the subject.

In this case, a personality that is positive or negative has NOTHING to do with what you mentionned.

And i do agree with what you said, although out of subject.

Ah no, I did not get confused there. Personality has EVERYTHING to do with the factors I listed. You can nit-pick all you like, but your original point was "Opposite attracts and feed on one another" which studies find is not true. So I will take the word of sociologists over your intuition.

Oh yeah, my reading compression is just fine btw. I challenge you do go into every thread that I have ever posted in and show how I have posted something true but out of context, except for this thread of course which I admit I took off course.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 11:02:06 AM
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So it does have something to do with it. Every human being is formed 50% by their genes and 50% by the environment they grow up in........

I don't think it's 50/50 nature/nurture. I think it's more like 25 nature and 75 nurture. I think we are the products of our environments far more than we are aware. The views and values and the social mores we hold are so often indoctrinated into us since childhood.

And again, people who hold similar views are the ones that are going to get along. Obviously each and every person is unique so two people in a couple will be different in some respects, but at the core, opposites do not attract.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 11:03:46 AM
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So it does have something to do with it. Every human being is formed 50% by their genes and 50% by the environment they grow up in........

I don't think it's 50/50 nature/nurture. I think it's more like 25 nature and 75 nurture. I think we are the products of our environments far more than we are aware. The views and values and the social mores we hold are so often indoctrinated into us since childhood.

And again, people who hold similar views are the ones that are going to get along. Obviously each and every person is unique so two people in a couple will be different in some respects, but at the core, opposites do not attract.

Dude, I'm a teacher, I was taught these facts in Educational Psychology at university. 50% genes, 50% environment.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 11:13:19 AM
The nature/nurture debate is one that will go one forever. There is no one, objective "correct" answer that everyone in the academic world will agree on. My own personal opinion is that who we are has more to do with our environment than our genetic disposition.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 11:19:36 AM
This is science though. The claim has been proven scientifically.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 11:28:10 AM
You can't claim that!

Show me ONE study where scientists prove that it's 50/50 nature/nurture.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 11:30:41 AM
I was told this information during a lecture at uni. The lecturer explained that enough tests have been done to provide enough clear evidence.

Dude! who wants to talk science when a concert is on! GOOGLE IT.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 11:37:35 AM
I don't know what this professor said, perhaps he/she said that after looking at some studies it is likely that it's 50/50 nature/nurture. But there is no clear evidence to give a definitive answer on the nature/nurture debate.

However, the debate is ongoing. It's like "what is the meaning of life."


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 11:39:00 AM
I don't know what this professor said, perhaps he/she said that after looking at some studies it is likely that it's 50/50 nature/nurture.

However, the debate is ongoing. It's like "what is the meaning of life."

No that's philosophy. ::)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 11:45:30 AM
I don't know what this professor said, perhaps he/she said that after looking at some studies it is likely that it's 50/50 nature/nurture.

However, the debate is ongoing. It's like "what is the meaning of life."

No that's philosophy. ::)

"Are people who they are because of nature or nurture" is a question that scientists, philosophers and sociologists could try to answer.

And it's like the meaning of life question in the sense that there will never be an objective answer that everyone can agree is fact.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 11:49:29 AM
Yes they are all different avenues of SCIENCE! Yawn....



Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 12:16:25 PM
Ah, no...

Unless you mean social science....



Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 12:31:55 PM
Dude! I have given you a few hints now that I do not wish to have this conversation with you.......I have had a long day at work.........YAWN MEANS YAWN!  :rant:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 12:39:35 PM
Dude! I have given you a few hints now that I do not wish to have this conversation with you.......I have had a long day at work.........YAWN MEANS YAWN!? :rant:

Then don't continue posting.

It's that simple.

I suggest getting a nice cold one and unwinding with some Red Dwarf.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 01:34:50 PM
Even better, I'm off for a shag.......


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 19, 2007, 05:27:21 PM
Do you use your right or left hand? : ok:  :hihi: :beer:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: 2112 on June 19, 2007, 09:19:22 PM
Do you use your right or left hand? : ok:  :hihi: :beer:

Right.



Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 09:55:52 PM
Do you use your right or left hand? : ok:? :hihi: :beer:

I get one guy to use his right hand and the other guy uses his left, the third guy in my room uses his tongue.........


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 19, 2007, 11:25:33 PM
Do you use your right or left hand? : ok:? :hihi: :beer:

I get one guy to use his right hand and the other guy uses his left, the third guy in my room uses his tongue.........
I hope none of your students visit this site :o..I also didn't know a 'muso' was quite so liberal


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 19, 2007, 11:33:18 PM
Do you use your right or left hand? : ok:? :hihi: :beer:

I get one guy to use his right hand and the other guy uses his left, the third guy in my room uses his tongue.........
I hope none of your students visit this site :o..I also didn't know a 'muso' was quite so liberal

When I was doing my teacher training, my mentor teacher gave me some good advice: There are 3 important things in life to reduce stress - good food, laughter and good sex!
I almost fell to the floor laughing........
 :hihi:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: DarkFairy on June 20, 2007, 03:58:51 AM
Sin_Cut is my ideal man  :drool:

he's sensitive, pretty, has a good taste in men and likes to cuddle  :love:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Sin Cut on June 20, 2007, 04:20:01 AM
When I was doing my teacher training, my mentor teacher gave me some good advice: There are 3 important things in life to reduce stress - good food, laughter and good sex!
I almost fell to the floor laughing........
 :hihi:

You got it all wrong damint, where's the joke in that?

Here's how we say it There are 3 important things in life to reduce stress - good sex, laughter and good sex!

Sin_Cut is my ideal man :drool:

he's sensitive, pretty, has a good taste in men and likes to cuddle :love:


Thanks honey, I knew you had the hots for me.? : ok:

As for the men and cuddle, it was a honest mistake!

Really, why did you make your husband to wear a dress in the first place?? :rofl:

Here's the proof;
(http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f181/bluecut/ladyseppo.jpg)

Actually for the record 87% of the woman population in Finland believe me to be

succesful, handsome, having a good taste in women and being able to score and doing just that.

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the remaining 13 % I've all ready scored.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 20, 2007, 04:40:35 AM
I hate to say this Sincut, but you look like that guy in Full Metal Jacket.......


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 20, 2007, 05:21:09 AM
that isn't his pic...


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 20, 2007, 05:22:51 AM
Didn't think it was....


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Sin Cut on June 20, 2007, 05:50:25 AM
THis is me!

(http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f181/bluecut/21122006004.jpg)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: stolat on June 20, 2007, 06:15:24 AM
Ah, it is the Sun King!


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: 2112 on June 20, 2007, 10:09:00 AM
humouristic, christian, happy, etc etc no fatty no skinny mixture, avoid bad music as far as possible, not be damaged by sleaze etc etc
I forgot "no communism"


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: crazycheryl on June 20, 2007, 03:47:19 PM
I think Jessica has been through her share and knows exactly what she wants - therefore the list. Those older and wiser have things they just won't put up with any longer because they have experienced them before and why should she?

Anyhoo, I think my list is pretty simple and I'm married so I only ask for the opposite of what my husband isn't:

Hot face
Great sense of humour
Patience
Fix things around the house/build things
Motivated
Loves music
Would buy a house and live next door to me instead of with me
Good in the sack
Likes to party


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: SLCPUNK on June 20, 2007, 04:55:38 PM
that isn't his pic...

Yea, that was Kujo.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 20, 2007, 05:13:15 PM
^ oh my...he is going to be so angry with you....you know the dealio with the dress and yet....


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Ganja4Life on June 20, 2007, 05:19:08 PM
Jessica..FUCXK YOPU ..I do dr5ugs..fucxkin..if you only knew one single thing about a person..and it was that they7 chose to do drugs..acause of that../you are..a FUCKING ASSHOLE...


holy fuck..sounds like you want a guy whos perfect in every aspect holy fuck...you aint perfect neithers any man..some things I understand but FUCK..learn how to take what you cant get fuck...


woman ::)


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Jagged Little Pill on June 20, 2007, 07:18:28 PM
Jessica..FUCXK YOPU ..I do dr5ugs..fucxkin..if you only knew one single thing about a person..and it was that they7 chose to do drugs..acause of that../you are..a FUCKING ASSHOLE...


holy fuck..sounds like you want a guy whos perfect in every aspect holy fuck...you aint perfect neithers any man..some things I understand but FUCK..learn how to take what you cant get fuck...


woman ::)

riiiiggghhhhhttt...perhaps you should settle down a bit..lay off the drug it is you are on and then come back and say something.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Lisa on June 20, 2007, 10:02:41 PM
Jessica..FUCXK YOPU ..I do dr5ugs..fucxkin..if you only knew one single thing about a person..and it was that they7 chose to do drugs..acause of that../you are..a FUCKING ASSHOLE...


holy fuck..sounds like you want a guy whos perfect in every aspect holy fuck...you aint perfect neithers any man..some things I understand but FUCK..learn how to take what you cant get fuck...


woman ::)
:o oh my ..maybe a little less "Ganja" and a little more "4Life".... ;)chilllllll


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: CheapJon on June 21, 2007, 04:11:10 AM
Jessica..FUCXK YOPU ..I do dr5ugs..fucxkin..if you only knew one single thing about a person..and it was that they7 chose to do drugs..acause of that../you are..a FUCKING ASSHOLE...


holy fuck..sounds like you want a guy whos perfect in every aspect holy fuck...you aint perfect neithers any man..some things I understand but FUCK..learn how to take what you cant get fuck...


woman ::)

very "womanlike" overreaction dude ::) :hihi:


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: deanaxlrose on June 21, 2007, 01:13:33 PM
women are for discussing. not for listening.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: Hammy on June 21, 2007, 01:41:57 PM
Jessica..FUCXK YOPU ..I do dr5ugs..fucxkin..if you only knew one single thing about a person..and it was that they7 chose to do drugs..acause of that../you are..a FUCKING ASSHOLE...


holy fuck..sounds like you want a guy whos perfect in every aspect holy fuck...you aint perfect neithers any man..some things I understand but FUCK..learn how to take what you cant get fuck...


woman ::)
Dude, chill, you give stoners a bad name.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: 2112 on June 21, 2007, 08:57:46 PM
Jessica..FUCXK YOPU ..I do dr5ugs..fucxkin..if you only knew one single thing about a person..and it was that they7 chose to do drugs..acause of that../you are..a FUCKING ASSHOLE...


holy fuck..sounds like you want a guy whos perfect in every aspect holy fuck...you aint perfect neithers any man..some things I understand but FUCK..learn how to take what you cant get fuck...


woman ::)


Haha, drugs are bad for YOU mkay


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: GeraldFord on June 21, 2007, 10:07:32 PM
I would like to describe my ideal woman...'s ass:

Big, but not huge.
Nice and milky--the kind of ass you could rub your face in for six hours.
No hair or pimples.
A crack that doesn't quit.


Title: Re: Your ideal man/ woman
Post by: CheapJon on June 22, 2007, 05:52:55 AM
I would like to describe my ideal woman...'s ass:

Big, but not huge.
Nice and milky--the kind of ass you could rub your face in for six hours.
No hair or pimples.
A crack that doesn't quit.

doesn't quit?