I think I understand what you are saying though....that if "trauma creates a better person then it ain't the fault of the untraumatized for the life in which they find themselves living". True. Very good point.
It is. But I shouldn't claim it as my own. Because it's not.
Anyway, enough.....
Never!
Maybe I'm trivializing it, but it seems like some people I know just... you know....boom, boom, boom... everything just falls into place exactly like they planned it. I don't know why that happens. I'm just saying that when I see people like that, they really do tend to come across as thinking they are "better" than others.
You're not trivializing it. At least not with regards to yourself. That is all that you see so, of course, that is all that you have to go on. A question that I struggle with when condeming those sorts of people (the bastards!), which I do frequently, is how I would act were I in their position, with no prior knowledge of the position that I am in now... Firstly, we won't ever know, but secondly I'm not all too sure that I want to... In doing that, in our own way, we are creating for ourselves the moral high ground. Which we can't say is all that much better...
Of course, that latter group is responsible for their own actions. We all are. No, it's not their fault if they don't go through some of the shit that others do. Shit happens to people and I don't know why - sometimes shit just happens and other times one creates their own shithole.
Oh, we are. Responsible, that is. No doubt. But not as much as general thinking would have you believe. Not as far as I can see, anyway. That isn't to say that we should not hold people accountable regardless... Because we will. It's in our nature, and damn me if I haven't tried to get past it!, but I can't. Hate the action, not the person and all that. But what are we if not a summation of our actions? What we are and what we do are different things, but the former is irrelevant. We are and will forever be the latter until we appreciate just how damn similar we are, all be it on different paths, and, hey, that's not going to happen in our life times.
I guess I'm just saying that it's easier, for some, to judge others when one hasn't been through certain things. I'm sure there are people out there who have great character who are able to just put themselves in another person's shoes. But it's so easy to judge other people for something when you haven't been through it yourself.
Well, there you go. For the most part they can't, and won't, understand. So. Back to the point before. Can we blame them?
Well, even if we can't, that doesn't mean that we let them off. The bastards! It's the ideal that we hate, whether we realise it or not, and since that manifests itself through that smug cunt, don't you worry, I hate him as much as you do !!
same kind of shit always happened to me to when i was younger i guess its just life's way of tellin us that hay your gona pay big for that fuck up
Nope. It's just lifes way of telling you that it's a bastard!
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