Relationship advice thread

[Jessica]

I start :

How do you tell a man you need him and want to continue seeing him and getting to know him and yet tell him of not being capable to project into the future as it's too scary ?

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

[norway]

I start :

How do you tell a man you need him and want to continue seeing him and getting to know him and yet tell him of not being capable to project into the future as it's too scary ?

It's always honesty without compromize.

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

You say it, straight out. And ask for it of course

[Jdog0830]

I start :

How do you tell a man you need him and want to continue seeing him and getting to know him and yet tell him of not being capable to project into the future as it's too scary ?

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

no matter what u gota be true to yourself if u 2 have been together 4 a few months or even years and he dont understand then u break up with him

if its when your starting a relationship out of nowhere then u gota tell him he will chances are if hes good get where your commin from thats all i got bout that

[The Dog]

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

A good man doesn't need to understand that you need that - he should just be providing it from the get go.

[Sin Cut]

by a house together. It's hard to leave that way.

EDIT: oh, sorry, you didn't want that

I think the man will be happy as long as you let him unwind.

[Layne Staley's Sunglasses]

[Albert S Miller]

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

A good man doesn't need to understand that you need that - he should just be providing it from the get go.

I couldn't have said that better  Sounds like you come from good stock as well, men like you are hard to come by, luckily I found one 19 years ago with the same morals, it has kept our marriage strong

[Bandita]

Seriously, you shouldn't need to vocalize any of this.  If he isn't doing it then he isn't the right man, point blank.

[The Dog]

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

A good man doesn't need to understand that you need that - he should just be providing it from the get go.

I couldn't have said that better  Sounds like you come from good stock as well, men like you are hard to come by, luckily I found one 19 years ago with the same morals, it has kept our marriage strong

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

[Albert S Miller]

What is a good way to make him understand I need cuddles and affection and loads of patience so I can maybe unwind a bit and feel in security ?

A good man doesn't need to understand that you need that - he should just be providing it from the get go.

I couldn't have said that better  Sounds like you come from good stock as well, men like you are hard to come by, luckily I found one 19 years ago with the same morals, it has kept our marriage strong

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

Sometimes my husband can be an a-hole also, but at the end of the day "sorry" is still all about the cuddles and affection and the love, it can sometimes be the best part of a truly crappy day

[norway]

I think the man will be happy as long as you let him unwind.

Not just that, men love self-confidence in women.

A lot of men has lost their passion for women simply because a lot of modern women has no self-respect-
- or doesn't know how to adore and treat men.

Why would any man have any incentive to give himself to egocentric, greedy, morally declined, brain-washed. disgusting, shallow, fat, fake, despicable beings? Which is the truth for a lot of women today.

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

Well, it's mostly women that can be a-holes, be proud, you're a man!

But it's true, either you mix or you don't. So always lead yourself with honesty and openess.

[Albert S Miller]

I think the man will be happy as long as you let him unwind.

Not just that, men love self-confidence in women.

A lot of men has lost their passion for women simply because a lot of modern women has no self-respect-
- or doesn't know how to adore and treat men.

Why would any man have any incentive to give himself to egocentric, greedy, morally declined, brain-washed. disgusting, shallow, fat, fake, despicable beings? Which is the truth for a lot of women today.

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

Well, it's mostly women that can be a-holes, be proud, you're a man!

But it's true, either you mix or you don't. So always lead yourself with honesty and openess.

We all have the potential to be all of the above mentioned, don't just blame the female gender, there are plenty of men that fit the same catagory and truthfully what is their excuse?

[Layne Staley's Sunglasses]

I think the man will be happy as long as you let him unwind.

Not just that, men love self-confidence in women.

A lot of men has lost their passion for women simply because a lot of modern women has no self-respect-
- or doesn't know how to adore and treat men.

Why would any man have any incentive to give himself to egocentric, greedy, morally declined, brain-washed. disgusting, shallow, fat, fake, despicable beings? Which is the truth for a lot of women today.

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

Well, it's mostly women that can be a-holes, be proud, you're a man!

But it's true, either you mix or you don't. So always lead yourself with honesty and openess.

We all have the potential to be all of the above mentioned, don't just blame the female gender, there are plenty of men that fit the same catagory and truthfully what is their excuse?

Because we are men and we can do whatever we please!

(Obviously, that was a tongue-in-cheek comment.)

If men complain about their women being chunky, they have no excuse to rock a beer gut.  You should behave/look the way you expect others to.  People tell others to do as they say, not as they do, which is a load of baloney.

[lynn1961]

Seriously, you shouldn't need to vocalize any of this.  If he isn't doing it then he isn't the right man, point blank.

Exactly. 

However, if you think he's the right guy, then just tell him what you feel and what you need.  If he doesn't want to get it, then he's out.   

[lynn1961]

I think the man will be happy as long as you let him unwind.

Not just that, men love self-confidence in women.

A lot of men has lost their passion for women simply because a lot of modern women has no self-respect-
- or doesn't know how to adore and treat men.

Why would any man have any incentive to give himself to egocentric, greedy, morally declined, brain-washed. disgusting, shallow, fat, fake, despicable beings? Which is the truth for a lot of women today.

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

Well, it's mostly women that can be a-holes, be proud, you're a man!

But it's true, either you mix or you don't. So always lead yourself with honesty and openess.

Bad break up, there, Norway? 

[norway]

If men complain about their women being chunky, they have no excuse to rock a beer gut.  You should behave/look the way you expect others to.

Yeah, you give what you receive. Finding someone equal or that fits to you

Bad break up, there, Norway? 

No break up and I'm satisfied with just being flirted with

I have to speak up on this shallow modern culture tho, a lot of men let their ladypigs be right out abusive.
Then you have this obnoxious view on men some have.

A lot of my friends are with women like that, I don't get it.

Those women usually won't hold on to their men either, so I think it's always honesty thats the key to a relationship.

[Lisa]

If men complain about their women being chunky, they have no excuse to rock a beer gut.  You should behave/look the way you expect others to.

Yeah, you give what you receive. Finding someone equal or that fits to you

Bad break up, there, Norway? 

No break up and I'm satisfied with just being flirted with

I have to speak up on this shallow modern culture tho, a lot of men let their ladypigs be right out abusive.
Then you have this obnoxious view on men some have.

A lot of my friends are with women like that, I don't get it.

Those women usually won't hold on to their men either, so I think it's always honesty thats the key to a relationship.

you sound like a bitter misogynist.."ladypigs"?? wtf is that? did your mother beat you as a child?

[norway]

you sound like a bitter misogynist..

And you sound like a fat ladypig! Joking...

I absolutely love most nordic women. 
I'm "bitter" because of christianity and mass-culture. It completely ruins people, our society and our enviroment.

And relationships it seems to me,-
- as many are getting into a very comodified, untrue charracter which affects comunication in the long run.

Sometimes it's wrong on so many levels.

If you follow the principle of honesty without compromise, is being scared of projecting a good reason to avoid it?

Don't think so, but is it really the reason?

did your mother beat you as a child?

As if anyone would need that to have those opinions...

[Sin Cut]

I think the man will be happy as long as you let him unwind.

Not just that, men love self-confidence in women.

A lot of men has lost their passion for women simply because a lot of modern women has no self-respect-
- or doesn't know how to adore and treat men.

Why would any man have any incentive to give himself to egocentric, greedy, morally declined, brain-washed. disgusting, shallow, fat, fake, despicable beings? Which is the truth for a lot of women today.

aww thanks    I'll have to show that to my girlfriend to show her I'm not a TOTAL a-hole hehe

Well, it's mostly women that can be a-holes, be proud, you're a man!

But it's true, either you mix or you don't. So always lead yourself with honesty and openess.

That sounds like a feminist.

If men complain about their women being chunky, they have no excuse to rock a beer gut.  You should behave/look the way you expect others to.

Yeah, you give what you receive. Finding someone equal or that fits to you

Bad break up, there, Norway? 

No break up and I'm satisfied with just being flirted with

I have to speak up on this shallow modern culture tho, a lot of men let their ladypigs be right out abusive.
Then you have this obnoxious view on men some have.

A lot of my friends are with women like that, I don't get it.

Those women usually won't hold on to their men either, so I think it's always honesty thats the key to a relationship.

Maybe thos men herding their ladypig should just step up and do something about it.

I mean, what's up with those pussies? When there's a bad relationship, blame yourself for staying in it.

[norway]

That sounds like a feminist.

Masculist, but you're spot on.

Edit:

Hey! Real men don't have short hair!! Wth?